Being a mother is hard. Let’s be honest, there are moments and days I feel like a complete failure as a mother. I have had times I’ve been out and about with the kids and someone comments how well behaved they are. I give myself a little pat on the back and feel great. Then, there are moments like the time I was in a government office filling out paperwork with nobody else there and someone from the back came out to tell me to control my kids. There are times my kids ask me for something and I lovingly reply and other times I get frustrated with their questions. There are nights they get a bath, a good toothbrushing, several stories, prayed over and snuggles and other nights they go to sleep in their clothes they’ve been wearing all day, no bath, no toothbrushing and a very quick goodnight. Being a mother is hard. Being a mother when you have no family close by and your husband has a very demanding job is especially hard.
I don’t know about you, but when I read Proverbs 31, I get motivated and discouraged at the same time. This woman described is like the perfect woman! The perfect wife, the perfect mother. She stays up all night, “Her lamp does not go out at night.” Proverbs 31:18. She’s wise and kind, “She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” Proverbs 31:26. She’s not lazy, “She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27. She’s strong, “She girds herself with strength and makes her arms strong.” Proverbs 31:17. Sometimes I read all this and feel like a failure. But, then I read Proverbs 31:30, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” See how the description of a godly woman ends. “A woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” I don’t think it’s a coincidence this is at the end of the description. The thing is, we are not called to be the Proverbs 31 woman alone. And, nowhere else in the description of this godly woman does it say she should be praised. It’s only stated after, “A woman who fears the Lord.” We are not called to be perfect, to have it all together. We are simply called to love God and put our trust in Him.
So, the next time you are having one of those days as a mom where you want to pull your hair out, turn to Him. He is there to help us, to comfort us and give us hope. And, remember, by doing so, you will be praised. I’ve included a free printable of this verse for you. Simply click on the picture and it will take you to the free pdf to download. Happy Mother’s Day!